25.8.10

PYHO: My Place in this World

There's an old Taylor Swift song that has always been one of my favorites because I totally and completely related to the lyrics. It's all about feeling lost, and not really knowing what is coming next, and not knowing where your place is in the world (the song is called "A Place in this World"). Some of my favorite lyrics are "Don't know what's down this road, I'm just walkin..." and the end of the chorus is "I'm just a girl trying to find a place in this world."

This song resonated with me from the first time I heard it. But up until recently, it spoke to me even more than usual. For a lot of the summer and maybe even some of last semester, I started doubting a lot of the decisions I made in the past few years. I made a lot of important decisions, and fast, and suddenly I was questioning them and if they were right for me. More specifically, where I go to school. I started wondering if I really wanted to be at this school. I started feeling like I was missing something by being at such a small school, like I wasn't having a "real" college experience.

It was hard for me to deal with these feelings, to process them and to figure out what I was supposed to about them. I am a junior in college, it's a little late to change my whole life plan. By the time I finally opened up and spoke about my feelings, I was two weeks away from going back to school and it was too late to do anything about it. I didn't want to tell anyone how I felt because I felt like a failure for feeling that way. And I definitely didn't want to blog about it because I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Since I didn't really have a choice, I went back to school for my third year, but with hesitation. I wasn't sure I wanted to be here. I wasn't sure that this was my place in the world. '

However, as I got back into town and started seeing familiar land marks, and got on campus, I started feeling like maybe it would be ok after all. That first night back in town, I went out to meet a few friends who were already in town, and within minutes of sitting there catching up with my friends, I knew. I knew that it was gonna be ok. The last couple weeks here haven't always been easy; there have been tears, and doubt about being here, even times when I was ready to pack up and leave. But eventually those feelings subside, and the feelings that remain are I can't imagine my life without these people, I love the feeling of this campus, I love being here. Those are what matter becaususe they mean more to me than any negative feelings.

Over two years ago when I started searching for colleges, I just knew that when I found the right place for me, I would just know.  Something would click for me, that told me this is where I'm supposed ot be. When I stepped onto this campus for the first time about a month before high school graduation feeling hopeless about finding a school, I got that feeling. I knew this is where I was supposed to be. And two years ago, when I joined Alpha Chi Omega, those feelings multiplied. I am where I am supposed to be. It may not be a Big 10 school with awesome football games, and crazy parties. It may not be a school anyone has ever heard of, but it is my school, and for that I am grateful. I am glad I found my place in this world.


I am linking up today at Shell's place for Pour Your Heart Out!

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6 comments:

Shell said...

I too went to a small school and then later questioned it. But, in the end, I loved it and made such amazing friends.

Helena said...

I think going to a small college sounds great! I went to a large university and never felt like I was completely a part of it all, like I was detached. I think you made a GREAT decision. There's plenty of time for the big, wide, world after that!

amy_z. said...

I'm so glad that being back on campus helped solidify your feelings about your school being your home away from home.

I went to small college too and found it was just right for me... and let's face it, without a big athletic program you don't have to worry about what scandal is going to hit your school next! :) LITB<3

Amy said...

Proud small school grad here, too. Sometimes we just need good friends to help us remember who we are and where we belong.

Krystyn said...

So glad you got that feeling back. It's always an emotional time leaving...and then again when you go back! But, you have so many amazing friends that you will always have!

Jessica said...

I can completely relate to this post, too. I think we all question the decisions that we're making from time to time because we're human. We question everything!

At the end of the day, I know that I was guided by someone bigger and better than me or anyone else and *that's* why I ended up where I'm at. It's all meant to be, Patrice! You're so very right!

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