24.11.08

Sad Day

Just in time for the holiday season, sad news :( My boyfriend and I broke up last night... he broke up with me. He was nice about it, and he didn't want to have to end things... but he has a lot going on and needs to get his life together before he can be in a relationship. I understand, I do, but it hurts... a lot. I wish there was a way that he could get his life together and still keep me in his life as his girlfriend, but it doesn't look like there is a way for that to work right now. I am so lucky to be surrounded by amazing friends, who all took care of me last night. I know this is the best thing right now, and I'm really glad that he cares about me enough not to drag me on when he doesn't feel like he can be 100% committed to this relationship. He has a lot going on in his life, and he felt like our relationship was possibly just another way for him to escape. I know he needs to get his life together, and we both said that it's possible there is a future, but for now he has to figure some stuff out. I just can't stop blaming myself... I know it's not my fault, it's no one's fault really, but I feel like there is more I could've done, I should've been there for him more... there are just so many regrets. If there is such a thing as a good time to break up, I guess that now is a good time because I'm leaving tomorrow to go home for thanksgiving, so we'll get a break from each other and we'll be able to think about things. It sucks. There's really no other way to say it. It really sucks. I miss him. I wish it didn't have to be like this. The worst part is, I had no idea. I did not see this coming at all, and that sucks even more. I know I'll be okay, and eventually when I'm ready I'll be his friend because he needs friends in his life right now, and maybe someday, when the timing is right, we can be together. Who knows what the future holds... all I know is I need to stop focusing on the past, and focus on the positive things. It's just gonna be a really hard couple of days...

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33 comments:

Elizabeth said...

so sorry that you're hurting right now.

remember that you are young and smart and IN COLLEGE...you have soooo much of your future in front of you. Keep your chin up and set some goals for yourself that are about YOU. stay close to your good friens & family... :-)

Megan said...

Breaking up sucks. There's no way around it. I am sure you will bounce back in the game soon enough and have another way cooler way hotter boyfriend!

Mrs. Newlywed said...

Breaking up blows no matter the circumstances.

Just remember you are in college, and it is supposed to be a blast! You are surrounded by guys that despite how it may appear on the surface make great boyfriend material!

Just focus on your friends for now, and it will all be fine :)

Hollie said...

hey patrice, just found your blog.
hang in there with the whole break-up deal. it can be rough, but I guarantee you that something great will come out of it!

super cute blog!

Chelle said...

Break ups are the worst :( I'm sorry honey.

I'm glad you're going to be home for the holidays--yummy food, your loving family and sometimes just being at home is all it takes.

Big (((hugs))) honey!

Dee said...

Oh I am sooooo sorry! I remember how hard those could be!!! Like you said..what really sucks is that you didn't see it coming!!

BUT...its ok...you're gonna be ok...and I'm sending you a BIG HUG!!!!!!!

The Mom said...

I'm so sorry!

Island Girl said...

I know it hurts, but to piggy back on what others have said, enjoy this time of your life - trust me, sometimes it's actually more fun single :)

Stay positive and your fabulous self will be back in the swing of things in no time!

reederscorner said...

Breakups SUCK - hope you feel better soon. My suggestion is a tub of Ben and Jerry's and some bad tv.

Jen E @ mommablogsalot said...

::hugs:: Breaking up is never an easy thing, no matter what side of it your on. At least you get to go home to some distractions and family and good comfort food. :)

The White House said...

ugh. I am sorry. That really stinks.

Jennifer said...

Sweet heart you are young right now just enjoy College. The right man will come along when you are not looking:)
Happy Thanksgiving:)

~*amber*~ said...

Breaking up sucks and I know how much it hurts. I am sure it hurts worse as you said you had no idea.

Maybe a break will be good and he too, even with all that is going on, will see that he misses you and can do things just as easily with you there as with you not. Going home to spend time with family will be good for you too; good support.

Wendy said...

So sorry to hear of this. How brave to share. There is not a woman in the world who has not had a broken heart, and it only makes finding Mr. Right way easier cus you r learning the hard lessons. Enjoy your family this time of year!!!

Wendy said...

ps- love your blog-very cute and creative..

Rebecca Kelsey of Miss Random Bliss said...
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Rebecca Kelsey of Miss Random Bliss said...

I'm not going to say everything will be okay because honestly it may take awhile. But be comforted that there are a lot of people that love you and will be there for you in your time of need. Its good to have Thanksgiving around this time so you can induldge in yummy pumpkin pie and whip cream

Dan said...

Sorry to hear, I know breaking up is really really REALLY hard. Just try to take it in stride, Thanksgiving is right around the corner, a great time to be with friends and family and get back to basics again.

Hang in there, I know its hard and i know this is cliche but, it gets easier eventually ;)

Heidi said...

Oh Patrice.. That does suck! But maybe you did more than you think. Maybe you gave him the reason to want to get his life together. Still sucks though.

Ken said...

Yeah it SUCKS is the best way to word that, we all go through these things and time is the only cure. But good friends do tend to be of some help. Just make sure you give your self some alone time.

sues2u2 said...

I'm sorry! My college boy friend broke up w/ me around this time too! I know it's rough but hang in there & let your family "love" on you a little more than usual. You are Soooooo worth it! And I don't think you should blame yourself so stop it! Right now!!!

Auds at Barking Mad said...

Awwwwww sweetie. *hugs*

I'm sorry that you're heart aches right now, but hopefully, being back home for the holidays will help ease the pain a bit.

Know that I'm thinking about you and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Focus on friends and family and thing that make *you* happiest!

Tenakim said...

Oh dear, I am so sorry. You're handling it great, though.

Tasha Via said...

Patrice, I'm so sorry, it really sucks, especially around this time of year. Hope you have a GREAT Thanksgiving anyway, because I know there must be somebody way better and way hotter for you=)

Laural Out Loud said...

Well, he just doesn't know a good thing like you when he has it! But you need a guy that CAN handle everything that life throws his way. So let this one go, head home for your Thanksgiving break, and keep your chin up.

And I'm sorry :-(

The Nice One said...

I'm so sorry. Break ups suck. But just remember, these are the years to have fun. Don't get too caught up in the woulda shouldas.

Hope that you have a happy thanksgiving! You coming home?

jg@shredderfood.com said...

Don't feel like you've got to be with someone to be whole.

If you're not enough alone, you will never be enough with a partner.

Now I will tell you the biggest secret.

Men are stupid, young men doubly so.

Sarah said...

girl, i'm going through the same exact thing right now and i've been there before. it's never easy. you just have to hold your head up. i promise i understand what you're going through. take it one day at a time!<3

Krystyn said...

Sorry to hear about that, Patrice.

Hang out with your girlfriends and spend some "you" time.

Susan in the Psych Ward said...

You just took me back... I hate break ups but they happen for the right reasons.. I know that's such a cliche' but it's so true... just remember, your young and don't really need to be tied down- there's lots of boys out there... enjoy them ALL!!!

Honey Mommy said...

Oh Patrice!

That really sucks... especially just in time for the holidays.

Sending Hugs your way!

Kelley Bruce Robinson said...

I'm sorry Patrice.


Look on the bright side. Now you'll have more time to devote to other things... maybe your new found time and motivation towards other endeavors for a while will produce something really great.

Open your Eyes. said...

*Hugs*

I love the fact you weren't irrational in your post. You completely understood and heartbroken as well. That's tough and your handling it as well as can be. It does suck but it sounds like your going to be the very least friends - which is one of the best things in life :) xxx.

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